well, hmmm... what do i write about tonight..?? a common subject, one that i have been mulling over for some time.. yes, i do overanalyze, most of the time.. okay, okay, all the time..
i know some people say, "so, they lied, ahh, don't let it bother you, just roll with it.." or, "it's no big deal, it's not your problem.." it's true, things shouldn't get to the point where they 'bother' me or to where "it's 'not my problem".. but, what really puzzles me, is why people lie in the first place..??
from an early age, your parents teach you "don't lie, lying is not good, lying is one of the worst things you can do and it gets you in a heap of trouble.." who hasn't heard of those sayings before..? only if we listened to our parents from early on, but back then, we knew everything and 'what do they know, they're old'..?
lies are the things you know you tell in order to keep your world intact.. lies are the things that keep you in the best possible light to people whom you want to admire, respect or worship you.. but what happens when all of that comes crashing down and you are revealed as a *gasp* 'fraud'..?
most likely, depending on how good your lies were from the get-go, nothing.. sure, for a while, you will look like a jerk or a bitch to some, but after all the smoke, dust, flying shoes and insults or flames finally die down, do you change your ways..? do you repent and see the light and error of your ways..? in all honesty, probably not.. you go further 'underground' and make sure you cover your path with a few more leaves and branches.. you might sit around kicking yourself for not thinking you could have been smarter about the whole thing, but there are, in those rare cases when, like being beaned in the head with a blunt object, probably the flying shoe, does the person realize what a complete and total moron they have been, then and only then, will they realize what they have done not to one person, but to everyone around them who has been an unwitting part of the lie they created.. do they suck it up and admit their error..? the correct answer would be a firm yes.. but..
as the old saying goes, "life goes on".. sure, you can sit around and stew on what the person has said, what they have done, but do you really honestly think they are doing the same..? once again, probably not.. they probably sleep soundly at night while you toss and turn wondering what they've done and what they are going to do to rectify the situation.. they probably, with all likelihood, are rethinking their game plan and fine tuning their ability to spin tales so the next time it's not so bad or they can carry on with the lie a little longer than last time..
in one of my favorite movies, 'The Count of Monte Cristo'.. one of the characters said to his son, "treason is a matter of dates".. i was just thinking in the back of one's mind is a timeframe.. what if you had actually paid more attention to the timeframe, would it have made the lies easier..? would it have cushioned the blow you felt when the lie was discovered..?
i was once told there are varying degrees to the whole mess of deceit.. three degrees to round it out and to put it into a nice 'box': white lies, brown lies and black lies.. first, the white lie: they are the ones you can tell but won't get into trouble for telling and, by virtue, are harmless.. these supposedly can be used to get yourself out of a tight spot or trouble as necessary.. second, the brown lies: they are the 'iffy' ones.. they may or may not get you into trouble, depending on how you deal them out; these allow you to be sneaky or creative and it's all on how you present them, but, be prepared for backlash.. and lastly, the black lies (dum dum dummm..): well, for all intents and purposes, they speak for themselves and pretty much don't need any explanation.. except once these are revealed, you might want to pack up and take that trip to nepal until the radiation dies down..
all of us are guilty of using the three degrees throughout our daily lives.. we're human, it's in our nature.. but, it's all a matter of how or even why you use them.. too much and it's bad.. too little and you're either not altogether human and should be beatified as a saint or you are guilty of lying to make yourself look good.. either way, in the land of categorizing everything under the sun and beyond, how would you categorize your world, your own universe..? white, brown or black..? think of the lies and plan accordingly..
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