on thursday, my daughter's pediatrician was still the topic of the day.. two friends agreed that he was mostl likely flirting or trying to make some kinda move on me.. but as oblivious to most moves of this sort, I had said that you would probably have to hit me in the back of the head with a dead fish for me to really pay attention to such attentions bestowed upon me by a member of the opposite sex.. then, one friend wondered if such behavior was related to true oblivion or a sense of low self-esteem, in that i may feel i am not privvy to such attentions..
this thought had me pondering such a scenario.. for the most part, i do think it's all part of my oblivious nature, walking through life with blinders when it comes to flirting men, but i do believe the idea of low self-esteem to have its merit.. not to toot my horn, but (well, beep-beep.. i just had to do it..) being told i'm smart is nail #1 in the coffin not to mention being pretty, nail #2 in the coffin.. so, i sat back and thought for a while then stepped back to took a look at a lot of friends and observed their relationships and mine as well..
smart friends.. the guys they tended to enter into a relationship with are either so driven that they are borderline freakishly controlling or just downright asses.. they also tended to be so boring that you would enjoy watching paint dry rather than have to talk with them.. is this the path for a smart woman..? hmm.. let us go on..
pretty friends.. the guys they tended to enter a relationship were controlling to the point that the men would pick out their clothes they wore, sat at the salon with them to make sure their hair or nails (mani & pedi) were done to his specs.. they tended to be big, muscle heads that when brains were being passed out they figured they could use the space for more brawn and took that route.. or the guy was such a jerk and she actually felt fortunate to have found someone..
now, the pretty and smart friends.. this combo alone is not so bad if you can get passed the variety of weeds you encounter, but sadly, it is somewhat lethal.. not in an actual real sense, but more of a sense of you are alone more than the others and that it is when the lethal factor comes into play on your social life..
it's as if most men look for a way to feel superior, whether its with his own smarts or his own looks (including accessories, ie: the car or checkbook), but to have a woman with both, intimidation sets in and tends to set in fast.. most men won't approach a woman with both.. and if the woman has more of an earning power than the approaching member of the opposite sex, it tends to be another nail in the coffin, not necessarily the final one, but it's close..
to kind of sum up what i've said, it might be a bit of oblivion with a sprinkling of low self-esteem which tends to work for me not to take notice when a man is flirting or attempting his mojo moves on me.. i'm not saying i'm this smart, pretty, high earning woman, but there is something going on..
after a while, i've come to feel more comfortable in my oblivion.. is it a part of being one of the many people of the low self-esteem persuasion..? probably and if it is, then i am officially signed up and am receiving my weekly newsletter along with the commemorative hat or lapel pin..
this thought had me pondering such a scenario.. for the most part, i do think it's all part of my oblivious nature, walking through life with blinders when it comes to flirting men, but i do believe the idea of low self-esteem to have its merit.. not to toot my horn, but (well, beep-beep.. i just had to do it..) being told i'm smart is nail #1 in the coffin not to mention being pretty, nail #2 in the coffin.. so, i sat back and thought for a while then stepped back to took a look at a lot of friends and observed their relationships and mine as well..
smart friends.. the guys they tended to enter into a relationship with are either so driven that they are borderline freakishly controlling or just downright asses.. they also tended to be so boring that you would enjoy watching paint dry rather than have to talk with them.. is this the path for a smart woman..? hmm.. let us go on..
pretty friends.. the guys they tended to enter a relationship were controlling to the point that the men would pick out their clothes they wore, sat at the salon with them to make sure their hair or nails (mani & pedi) were done to his specs.. they tended to be big, muscle heads that when brains were being passed out they figured they could use the space for more brawn and took that route.. or the guy was such a jerk and she actually felt fortunate to have found someone..
now, the pretty and smart friends.. this combo alone is not so bad if you can get passed the variety of weeds you encounter, but sadly, it is somewhat lethal.. not in an actual real sense, but more of a sense of you are alone more than the others and that it is when the lethal factor comes into play on your social life..
it's as if most men look for a way to feel superior, whether its with his own smarts or his own looks (including accessories, ie: the car or checkbook), but to have a woman with both, intimidation sets in and tends to set in fast.. most men won't approach a woman with both.. and if the woman has more of an earning power than the approaching member of the opposite sex, it tends to be another nail in the coffin, not necessarily the final one, but it's close..
to kind of sum up what i've said, it might be a bit of oblivion with a sprinkling of low self-esteem which tends to work for me not to take notice when a man is flirting or attempting his mojo moves on me.. i'm not saying i'm this smart, pretty, high earning woman, but there is something going on..
after a while, i've come to feel more comfortable in my oblivion.. is it a part of being one of the many people of the low self-esteem persuasion..? probably and if it is, then i am officially signed up and am receiving my weekly newsletter along with the commemorative hat or lapel pin..
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